I remember my first Mother’s Day after having three miscarriages in less than a year. I was sitting on the front row of our megachurch, waiting for the inevitable recognition of all the mothers in the room. Would I stand in acknowledgment of the fact that I was a mom even though all my babies were in heaven? Would I stay seated while feeling like I was betraying the little lives who had been but were no more? Was standing making some kind of statement? Was staying seated ignoring the reality that three little lives had been created and lost, were missed and not forgotten?
We live in a time when we as women can do and be anything we want to be. There is no limit to what we can accomplish, and for this I am truly grateful. But these seemingly limitless opportunities can often cause confusion, and even stress, for many us as we try to define what makes a successful mother in a culture where motherhood is just one of many options.